Hey friends! I hope you're all having a wonderful weekend! This is the first weekend in a long time that we have nothing to do! It's been so nice to just relax, clean the house, and get out in the garden. We also officially booked our next Disney trip! We're heading back to Walt Disney World in late Feb 2019! I can't even begin to tell you how excited we are!!
I wanted to address something real quick today though before I get in to today's Tiny Talk discussion. It was brought to our attention yesterday that the dog food that we give Wrigley and always recommend to others is currently going through a lawsuit for potentially producing their dog food with harmful materials. We have decided to stop feeding Wrigley Taste of the Wild dog food and I wanted to let you all know that I will be removing my review of this food from Tiny Dapper Fox. This food is currently not under recall, but we have made the personal decision to stop giving him this food. We will keep you all updated on new dog food recommendations in the future! If you have an all natural minimal ingredient dog food that you love, please share it with me at email@example.com!
Ok so anyways, on to the good stuff now! Going with the flow...this was my New Years resolution actually! This is still a work in progress for me, but it is something I've actively been working on all year. I don't have specific tips per say on going with the flow, but I would say I have some prime examples where I've succeeded with this mantra and where I really should have lived more by it.
I think my best example of me truly going with the flow was my birth plan for Kai. My whole plan was to deliver Kai safely. That was the whole thing. I didn't care how it was done, whether I was able to do it vaginally or through c-section, as long as we were both safe, that's all I wanted. If you remember his birth story, I did want a c-section to be the very last resort, but I had accepted that if I couldn't get him out by a certain time, I was willing to accept having a c-section. I think if I had gone in to labor 100% against having a c-section I would have made it that much more mentally hard on myself to deliver Kai and it probably would have truly just all fallen apart. I would have been way more exhausted than I already was that my delivery was not working out as planned and I probably would have had to have a c-section, and since that wasn't the "plan" I would have been really disappointed in the outcome. Going with the flow of the day though truly helped me in the end to have what I felt was the perfect birth day for Kai.
On the other hand though, one area that I needed to really work on letting go of things and just going with the flow of it was with breastfeeding. I am actually very surprised at myself that I am still going strong today because for awhile there I was so incredibly stressed about not producing enough it was literally unhealthy. From the start, I wish I had just gone with the flow when it came to nursing. Any amount of breast milk is good for our babies, right!? Who cares if he has some formula every day! As long as he wants to nurse and I want to produce, that should be enough. This was not my mentality for a long time though...especially when I went back to work. My level of stress and anxiety at the beginning of summer was out of control and I wasn't going with the flow at all. It was effecting everything, especially my breast milk production. Well stressing about it only makes it worse. I have finally come to the point though where as long as I have enough milk to offer him while I actual feed him from the breast, I don't care about pumping. I pump so I don't get clogs and for stimulation for when I do nurse Kai. I no longer pump for a stock or to exclusively breastfeed. This mentality has literally done wonders for myself! I fully plan on using this go with the flow of breastfeeding mentality from now on and especially with future babies.
So as you can see, I've had to work really hard at getting good at this whole go with the flow thing. I still love structure and schedules, I truly thrive on that, but I also have gotten pretty decent at letting go when plans and schedules don't go accordingly. Going with the flow literally makes me feel alive. I feel so free when I think about it. Who cares if I didn't do the laundry today. We ate out tonight instead of cooking what we had on the menu, OH WELL! I forgot to water the plants, oops! It's all ok because we have tomorrow to hopefully catch up, and we if don't that's fine, too...it'll all get done eventually! I think using this mentality has actually made me more productive, though. When I let go of certain things, I am able to solely focus on things that truly matter, and I am so grateful for that.
Are you a go with the flow person or do you thrive on complete structure? Leave me a comment below and tell me about you! I hope you can join in on my Instagram Live today, as well, which will be happening at it's usual time of 2 PM CST on my Instagram (@dmcab)! Also, head on over to the Tiny Tribe Facebook group and join in on the discussion there! See you all this afternoon!
Hey there friends! I hope you're all having a great start to your week. I hope you all enjoyed last weeks Tiny Talk on Being Present. I really enjoyed chatting with all of you through our FB group and Instagram Live last week! Apologies on being a few days late with this one...time just got away from me this weekend! I'm back again this week though with another edition of Tiny Talks and this time we're going to be talking about the problems with social media. While social media can be really great, it comes with it's downfalls. I obviously love social media so much and can't picture my life without it, but is that a problem? It might be...
Social media is so addictive. Literally. We get addicted to constantly checking it. We crave that little red number to pop up on Instagram. Did you know that when you log on to Instagram or Facebook and you get those notification numbers that dopamine is actually released in your brain from them? It's true...and that is why it's so addictive. We crave that hormone release and social media is an easy way to get it. But like everything else it slowly loses its effect and you need it more and more often, which is so bad for us. We really need to do our best to control our usage for many reasons but our own health is literally one of them.
We all compare ourselves to each other...we can't help it, it's human nature. Social media makes this 1000x easier to do and that is so unhealthy. I know I look all over Instagram and find so much inspiration but at the same time you can't help but wonder how these peoples lives can be so perfect? And then you wonder why your life can't be like that? Well I'm here to tell you that you're awesome and to stop doing this. No one's life is perfect and trust me, you're missing so much of the picture in those little squares that you see on Instagram. So next time you're feeling low while scrolling, stop, kill the app, and then think of one reason why you're life is so amazing.
Spring boarded off the comparison point, social media is so fake. We all put up what we want others to see...not the whole picture. I confess that I pick and choose what I want you all to see even. I try my hardest to be real and raw as much as possible but sometimes I have to be transparent for one reason or another. For me personally, I'm not trying to hide anything but for my family's privacy sometimes I can't tell the whole story. It's that way with everyone else out on social media, too. So while it may be depressing that our lives aren't as perfect as these big time bloggers or influencers that are out there, just remember that it's not REAL. You can't even be 100% on the internet, especially through a little picture/caption or a status post on Facebook.
The Damn Algorithm
Yes of course I have to address the stupid Instagram algorithm. It sucks, it really really does. If you don't like 1 of my photos then you will start seeing less and less of them. This is really hard when you're trying to gain your following or your livelihood depends on it (thank goodness this is not the case for me). I know likes and follows don't matter but if you are trying to make money off of social media it got a whole lot harder thanks to this addition to Instagram.
So Much PRESSURE
Social media comes with a lot of pressure. This kind of goes hand in hand with the algorithm bit. There's so much pressure to have the perfect photo, the perfect theme, the perfect Instagram page. If people go to your Instagram and they don't think your grid looks pretty they do a hard pass on you. This makes me so sad. There are so many people out there who do put up amazing content that is so inspiring or informative but may not have those photography skills or editing skills to make their Instagram look perfect. I know for me personally, if I don't have a really great photo to post, I just don't post. I constantly feel pressure to post perfect photos and follow my Instagram strategy (if you want to know what this is I can do a post on it in the future). This is all so silly though and I know that. It frustrates me that I feel this way because it is my space, my photos, my way of looking back on life and how amazing it is. But because of the pressure I don't post those non-perfect photos anymore. Thankfully though I have this space to post all those amazing candids of my family and I can look back on all the amazing memories here!
Gotta love a good troll. They're everywhere these days, just lurking in the corner, waiting to come out and ruin your day. Seriously though, what is it with these people? Why does putting someone else down make them feel better? I know for me, if I were to make someone else's day worse it would make my day worse! Unfortunately though they are out there and we just have to deal with them. It's hard to shake them off when the comments roll in but we have to. Always try to be the bigger person and kill them with kindness....they obviously need some kindness in their life if they feel the need to bring others down through a screen!
How do you all feel about social media? Do you love it? Do you hate it? What is one thing you think we can do to improve the culture around social media these days? Tune in to my Instagram Live today at 1 PM CST to discuss all of this with me! I have the day off of work today and while I know many of you don't don't worry...the talk will be available on my Instagram for 24 hours! You can also join in on the conversation in the Tiny Tribe group on Facebook. Talk to you all later!
Welcome to our first official Tiny Talk! I hope you all are having a great weekend. I've been cherishing this long Labor Day weekend as best as I can and really focusing on this weeks Tiny Talks topic for myself, which is being present. Being present is an art, in my opinion. It can be really hard. When the going gets tough I know I personally just want to "run away" via social media, deep cleaning our house, or sometimes just staring off blankly in to space. While all these things can sometimes be good or fun or inspiring when I do them to escape something or get too excessive with it they are severe time suckers. Ever since I became a mom I value my time so much more. It's so important to me that I give Kai my full attention the entire time he is awake and it's just as important that I take time for myself, my hubby, and our home while he's sleeping or playing independently. It's taken me a long time and a lot of hard work (I know that sounds silly but it's so true) to get to a place where I am proud of with being present and today I want to share this wisdom with you + find out how you all stay present with yourself and your families!
1. Cut off Phone Usage
Ha yeah you probably all guessed this would be number 1! Wasting time on our phones is seriously the biggest time sucker of all. There are nights where I tell myself I am going to check Instagram 1 more time and then shower and go to sleep but then it's somehow 1 am and I still haven't showered and am clearly not sleeping. There is just something so wrong with that! While I really love social media, taking photos, and texting our family and friends I truly believe there is a time and place for it. I've really started limiting myself with my phone to these times:
I also minimally use my phone on Sundays. It is my one day to completely shut down and spend with my family. With the exception of Tiny Talks, I do not go on social media at all and only answer texts/calls when Kai is napping or it's important. I honestly just love leaving my phone in our bedroom or in my purse these days. I have an Apple Watch, so I am still very much able to know when someone needs to reach me, but I am far less tempted to waste my life away on my phone this way.
2. Create a Good Schedule for Yourself
I know schedules and routines can be so mundane but they help me so much. I know what to expect and when I can expect it. I have daily schedules and to do lists all written out in my phone and when the clock strikes whatever time, I aim to do what I have written down on my schedule. This really helps me to maximize my time and get things done but at the same time switch off when it's time to be with Kai, Caleb, and Wrigley. My best example is we put Kai down to sleep between 8:30 and 9pm then from 9 to 9:30pm I tidy up the house, do laundry, and do dishes. As soon as the clock strikes 9:30pm though I stop, do my quick little social media check, kill all my apps, and hop in the shower so that by 10pm I can either have some personal time or time with Caleb.
3. Go With the Flow
Ok so you might be thinking how can you do this one + number 2? Well I mean "go with the flow" in 2 different ways actually. 1 being that sometimes schedules and to do lists just don't happen. You can't let this get to you though. And then 2, you need to just let the day be how it's going to be. What I mean by this is if your baby is crying nonstop and your toddler is throwing a fit that is exactly what is supposed to be happening that day. We can't always expect everything to be perfect and we need to acknowledge these times for what they are. That life is going exactly as it should. The best we can do is react to it with grace and gratitude that we have the lives we have and make the most of it. Remember everything is temporary and just go with it.
4. Make Traditions
I know for us starting traditions as a family has really made a difference with being fully present with each other. You can just tell when a moment is special and a lot of times it's something you want to come back to over and over again. Traditions don't have to be anything big...they can be ordering pizza and watching Disney movies on Friday nights or going to the Farmer's Market every week like Kai and I do. During these times though I encourage you to just take it all in. Every second of how you feel, your surroundings, and the people you're with. Traditions make amazing memories.
5. Acknowledge ALL Feelings
Circling back to running away when the going gets tough...do not do that. Being sad and hurt is a part of life and those feelings need to be acknowledged. It is so important that we learn how to cope with heart break and stress. I can honestly say when we deal with the tough times, they resolve quicker. Face things head on and allow yourself to feel the sadness. It really is ok to be sad and cry. Don't hold back and don't hide from it. You are stronger than you'll ever know.
On the flip side, truly feel and relish in your own happiness. Be proud of yourself. Think about why you're so happy and so proud and hold on to that so the next time you're sad you can acknowledge the sadness but then turn to the reasons why you should be happy and proud of yourself. There is always a bright side to everything.
How do you work on being present in your life? I would love to know! Please join me for my Instagram Live at 1 PM CST (sorry different time today!) as well as in the conversation around being present in the Tiny Tribe on Facebook. Or just simply leave me a comment below! I can't wait to discuss being present further with all of you!
Happy Sunday friends! I'm so excited to be writing to you all today because I'm finally launching my newest additions to Tiny Dapper Fox today! When I started Tiny Dapper Fox, I had this vision of it being more than just a blog. I've always wanted this to be a community where we can all come to for advice, fun times, a shoulder to cry on, and just a safe place to share what is on our minds. I don't want this space to just be about me. It's about all of us. I've been trying hard to come up with ways to convey this and a couple of ideas popped in to my head that just kept growing and they are: Tiny Talks and The Tiny Tribe! Here's a little bit more about the two newest parts of Tiny Dapper Fox...
Tiny Talks will be a series done here on the blog as well as on Instagram Live every Sunday afternoon. They will be hosted by me at 2 PM CST. Every week I'll be covering a discussion topic and I'll rely on you guys to chime in with comments and questions to help me elaborate on each topic. I'll be covering things like being present, mom shaming, the problem with social media, and so much more. I'm looking to compile a good list of topics so please send me an e-mail with ideas or leave them in the comments below! My first one will be today and I'll just be elaborating in a bit more detail about what to expect from Tiny Talks.
In addition to the Instagram Live there will be a corresponding blog post that goes with whatever topic is discussed on Instagram. I'll cover the main points I go over in the live story so we can all come back to it whenever we may need it!
The Tiny Tribe
The second addition is The Tiny Tribe! This is a private Facebook I've created for us to easily communicate with each other! It will be a safe zone for us to discuss the Tiny Talks topics more in depth, ask each other questions about everything and anything (motherhood, decorating advice, travel tips, recipes, etc!) You can join the group here! You'll have to request group membership by answering a couple of questions but that's it. I'll approve your request and then you'll be able to participate in all the discussions and post in the group!
I am so excited for these additions to Tiny Dapper Fox and truly hope you are, too. I look forward to connecting with each and every one of you more! Make sure you follow me on Instagram so you can easily tune in to Tiny Talks or watch it later in the day through my Instagram stories. See you all at 2 PM!
I’m Diana; curator & author of Tiny Dapper Fox. Here you’ll find posts on motherhood, home life, travel, & fashion/beauty as well as City Guides for places all around the world. Make yourself cozy and let’s be friends!
Follow on Instagram