Our postpartum bodies are so different. It amazes me the differences I see and feel. At first, I didn't like it. I knew what I was getting in to but at the same time to see my body so different was hard. My belly was and is still so soft. I actually had slight diastasis recti after giving birth, too. I didn't even know where to start to getting back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I had gained about 30 lbs during my pregnancy but also was not happy where I was weight-wise before I got pregnant.
I was cleared to work out after my 6 week postpartum appointment but didn't even know where to start. I felt so loose, weak, and my tailbone was still pretty bruised. I also didn't want to make my diastasic recti worse. Plus, what mama has time to workout!? I was excited at the prospect of "getting my body back" but was also overwhelmed. I decided to make a small plan for myself though that started me out really slow and see how it went.
I slowly got back in to being physical and made it a point to make time for myself to workout. There was plenty of ups and downs at the beginning and I would go through periods where I wouldn't work out for weeks. But after my bout of PPD, I knew I needed to change something. I knew I needed to get healthy not just for Kai, but for myself. I lost a significant amount of weight when I was struggling with PPD and it was not healthy at all. After getting the help I needed, I tried to look at the silver lining of it all that I had lost a good amount of weight and the number was almost where I wanted it to be. I would never encourage anyone to lose weight by not eating and letting anxiety run their life though. It made EVERYTHING worse. So please mamas, if this is something you are struggling with please seek the help that you need. No shame. I'm here. Your doctor is here. Whoever, you need, please turn to them.
From there though I realized I needed to appreciate myself so much more. I stopped working out to lose weight and instead started working out because my beautiful body deserves to move and be loved. By changing this mind set and doing workouts that I truly enjoy, it changed everything. I love working out now. I'm disappointed when I miss a workout. I crave it now. I'm so proud of myself when I look in the mirror and see how far I've come. To me it's a moot point but I know numbers are easier to grasp for some so here it is...I've lost all 30 lbs of my baby weight plus another 10 lbs to get myself back to where I've been wanting to be for a long time. All my clothes fit again...even things that didn't fit prior to my pregnancy. But mostly, I feel good and to me that's what's most important about beginning my fitness journey.
So I wanted to share with you all how I got back in to a good fitness regimen after having Kai all the way through up to where I am at now.
*Week 1 meaning from the time I started working out again, not postpartum weeks. I wanted to state this in weeks of the journey, not postpartum because we are all ready to begin working out again at different times in our postpartum journey.
I go to yoga on Sundays and Thursdays and go running on Mondays. Monday and Thursdays are my work from home days, so going to workout is the perfect way for me to get out of the house for those days. I am currently still on the 1 mile run and 2 moderate level yoga classes phase of this journey. I was actually up to running 2 miles once a week, but after my dad passed away, I just wasn't getting my workouts in. As much as I want to believe I can run further than that, it's important that I don't rush that part of exercising. When you give birth, your pelvic floor becomes very very weak and your hips/back are very out of whack. If I miss too many runs, I back to track to 1 mile again. My philosophy is 3 weeks at a time. After 3 weeks of being consistent with a workout, I feel that I can bump it up to the next level. This has been a nice steady incline of workouts for myself to where I'm not overdoing it but at the same time not staying stagnant for too long. I was very active when I was younger and can tend to push myself too hard sometimes so it has been very hard not to do that now. It's so important though to give yourself grace and time to get back to where you want to be from a physical standpoint though...you did give birth to a human after all! Our bodies need a lot of time to heal. Exercising can actually help with this but overdoing it with exercise can make things much worse. It's about finding that balance and I believe the schedule up above was perfect for me in finding that balance. Like I've said, I feel better than ever these days! I feel good from the inside out and feel like I look it too whenever I look at myself in the mirror. So I encourage all of you to find that schedule that works for you, too. Know that it does take some sacrifice, but it's worth it. It makes me sad to give up my Sunday mornings snuggling Kai and reading to him before his morning nap to go to yoga, but at the same time I need that time for me. It makes me sad to not have dinner with Kai and Caleb after work on Thursday nights, especially because I have to go in to the office on Fridays, but I know I need that break to go to yoga for my own sanity. I do have mom guilt for even taking 3 hours a week for myself to do these workouts, but it's only 3 hours. Kai will be ok and I'm better for it. So mamas, pick out some time for yourself, do what you enjoy, and start slow! If you have any questions or need any advice or motivation I am always here for you!
The only thing I want you all to know and remember is, please do not workout prior to your doctor or midwife clearing you for it after giving birth. It is very important to rest those first 6 to 8 weeks or longer if recommended by your doctor or if you just simply need it yourself.
Sweater - JCrew Factory (old, similar) | Jeans - Gap | Hat - Target (old, similar) | Puffer Vest - JCrew Factory | Hunter Boots - Nordstrom (old, similar) | Ring Sling - Wildbird | Sunglasses - Amazon
Last year while I was pregnant we went apple picking for the first time and absolutely fell in love with the activity. We promised ourselves we would go back this year with Kai and make it an annual fall tradition. A couple of months ago we made good on that promise and took Kai out in to the apple orchard at Apple Holler and had the most wonderful afternoon walking around and picking all the different kinds of apples. The apples we picked off the tree were Kai's first apples he ever had, too! We did the same thing back in July with peaches. We've always been big on the freshest ingredients for our food and it doesn't get much fresher than right off the tree!
Sweater weather is honestly my favorite time of the year. I love the feeling of being cozy and warm but while the air is crisp. Don't get me wrong, I love summer, but I love fall even more. I've always been in love with white/cream colored sweaters...I have way too many but I personally think they go so perfectly with everything. I like the way this white sweater breaks up the navy between my vest and my jeans. I also love my Hunter boots so much! They are perfect for this time of year when we get random snow falls and the ground gets messy. They are also surprisingly warm, and I can't recommend them enough.
Half of Kai's wardrobe is from Gap, ha! I just love their baby boy cloths for their simplicity. They tend to always be having a sale, too, so it makes buying nice cloths for Kai way more affordable. Their Black Friday sale at the end of this week is going to be excellent! They are doing 50% off plus another 10% off your whole purchase and the sale is also available online. I know I'll be snagging a lot more cute sweaters for Kai for some Christmas presents. Speaking of sales...Freshly Picked is having their semi-annual sale right now, too! They are having up to 50% all over their site, which is a big deal. Their shoes are on the expensive side and they rarely have things on sale. Plus if you are a Fringe member you can apply your 20% member discount to the sale prices! These are my favorite baby shoe brand for Kai because they actually stay on his little feet. He's going to start walking soon, so I'm going to be stocking up during this sale big time!
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Hey there beautiful friends! I'm SO happy you're here today because today is a very special day for us...this little blog is ONE! I started this blog last November and it has truly brought so much joy and creativity in to my life and I have all of you to thank for that!
I've grown so much in the last year, it kind of blows my mind. To think when I started this blog I was still a mama to be is actually kind of unbelievable to me because I can't imagine my life without Kai and being a mom. I don't mind being defined as a mom at all. It is truly my calling and I honestly love who I've become in the last year. That's the first time in my life that I've been able to say that, I think. To be proud of who you are is so freeing. I start each day so full of happiness and am constantly motived to be the best version of myself possible.
Writing this blog, taking photos, connecting with all of you through social media, my Tiny Talks, and the Tiny Tribe brings me so much positive energy. I look forward to each and every blog post that I publish and literally get giddy when I hit the POST button. I've had the amazing opportunity to work with some incredible brands, too and thank all of them so much for recognizing the love and hard work that goes in to this blog. I joke that I have 3 jobs. My day job, being a mom, and being a blogger and I love all 3 of them so much. I wouldn't trade any of this for the world! I've put my hand at this blogging/website thing in the past (Yellow Mondays + This Boundless Journey, anyone? ha!) and I always get tired of what I'm doing long before this point. Tiny Dapper Fox though has not reached that point for me, and I am so grateful to have finally found my creative space that brings so much light in to my life.
Even though I've felt more joy in this last year then I ever have in my life, it hasn't come without challenges. I've certainly had my struggles, the two biggest ones being my postpartum anxiety and the loss of my dad. Life is not simply just happy or sad, it's so complex and learning how to deal with the ups and downs is just a part of it. When my dad got sick I was just getting over my crippling postpartum anxiety. For the last 5 months or so I've felt like I've been in a spinning vortex. I've been trying to climb my way out of it but life was spinning very very fast at some points that I just couldn't. This little blog and my family kept me from being lost though. Without you all, I feel like I would be numb and in the unknown. So thank you, from the bottom of my heart for being here. Whether you've been here the last year or even if you've just joined me, thank you so much for being a part of Tiny Dapper Fox.
Hey there, friends! I hope you all are having the best week. This past weekend we went out to Ohio to visit our family and go to a bridal shower! We took advantage of the amazing fall weather that Toledo was having and went to the farmer's market downtown and grabbed some coffee + crepes for breakfast before the shower. We walked around the market and Kai napped in one of our Wildbird slings and it was all just so cozy! It was the perfect fall day.
Sweater - Banana Republic | Jeans - Madewell | Loafers -Nordstrom Rack | Sunglasses - Amazon
Kai's Outfit Details:
Avocado Onesie - Lavender Sun c/o | Cardigan - H&M | Jeans - Carters | Oxfords - Freshly Picked (old, similar)
I feel like I've really got the mom look down lately and I'm not mad about it at all. Give me a cozy sweater and comfy pair of jeans any day. I recently found this gorgeous cream sweater at Banana Republic and just had to have it. Thankfully their Friends & Family event is going on right now so you can snag it too for 50% off when you use your Gap, Banana Republic, or Old Navy card. These jeans have also quickly become my absolute favorite pair. I traded in a couple of old ripped pairs of jeans at Madewell a few weeks ago and was able to get $20 off them! I really love Madewell's trade in program as it is such a good way to recycle old jeans that can no longer be worn or donated. These new jeans that I got though are called the Roadtripper jeans and they are about the comfiest pair of pants that I've ever owned. And then these black loafers that I have...oh my goodness they are heaven on my feet. I basically wear them every day! They are so comfortable and go with everything.
I try to dress Kai as comfy and cozy as possible, too. With the weather getting cooler I of course try to keep him warm but I also don't want to overheat him. That's one thing we have to be careful about mamas...we can't overdress our babes and make them sweat and get uncomfortable. I've found that when it's in the 50s, Kai is perfect with pants and a sweater. So I always bring a cardigan or zip up with us plus a blanket to keep over him in his stroller. I'm super obsessed with this avocuddle onesie, too, that I go for him from Lavender Sun! Avocados are one of our favorite foods so it just fits us so perfectly. I tend to be a little picky when it comes to picking out onesies and clothing with sayings on them, but Lavender Sun has so many cute options! I find all of them hilarious and literally want every single one of them. Plus their material is so nice and soft, so whenever I dress Kai in their clothes, I know that he's comfortable.
I hope you all have a cozy rest of the week! Make sure you're following along on Instagram as I'll be hosting a Tiny Talk tonight at 7 PM CST!
Every night I tend to follow the same routine. After we put Kai down for the night, it's important to me to take some time for myself and Caleb since so much of the day is about Kai. These couple of hours that I spend every night mean so much to me for my own sanity! Today, I want to share my routine with all of you as I feel like I finally have a good mix of productivity and self-care down. It only took 7 months to figure out...ha!
9:00PM: We lay Kai down in his crib for the night after reading to him and saying our prayers. This is where my night time routine begins. After I put him to bed, I head in to our room and turn on his monitors. From there, I go in to our bathroom and prep my teeth whitening trays. I started using the Smile Brilliant teeth whitening kit a couple of weeks ago and it's done wonders already for my teeth! In just two weeks time, I have seen a noticeable difference on how white and clean my teeth look. I am a big coffee drinker and love me some red wine so my teeth definitely have gotten some stains on them over time. I feel so much more confident these days to show off my teeth in selfies with Kai Bear.
I simply just put the whitening gel in the pre-made trays they sent to me and put them in my mouth. They kind of remind me of a retainer. They are really comfy, I can still talk, and I am free to go about the rest of my night! They are the perfect way to multitask.
9:05 PM: After I have my whitening trays in, I head downstairs to tidy up the house, fold some laundry, and do the dishes. I usually spend around 30 minutes doing these little tasks to keep up with keeping our house somewhat clean and functioning!
Owlet: Amazon | Motorola Video Monitor: Amazon | Bed Frame: World Market (old, similar) | Euro Pillow Shames: Pottery Barn | Night Stand: 2 Fancie Gals
9:30 PM: I start to settle down for the night after my quick clean up of the house, check my social media accounts one last time for the night, and do a devotion in my Bible app. This also gives me a few extra minutes to let my Smile Brilliant trays keep doing their magic before it's time to take them out. I try to leave them in for about 45 minutes.
Ocean Cleansing Mudd: OSEA Malibu | Dyrbar Sake Bomb Shampoo: Sephora | Drybar Sake Bomb Conditioner: Sephora | Aveeno Body Wash: Target | Rosewater Facial Toner: LOLA JANE | Blemish Balm: OSEA Malibu | Grease Lightning Acne Treatment: LUSH | Korres Rose Eye Cream: Sephora | Honest Belly Balm: Amazon | Sleepy lotion: LUSH | Burts Bees lip balm: Amazon
9:45 PM: Next, I take my whitening trays out and put in my desensitizing gel in the trays. I have really sensitive teeth, and I've had problems with whitening kits in the past really hurting my teeth. This gel from Smile Brilliant though has really helped the sensitivity level that comes with whitening your teeth. I've had minimal sensitivity with eating and drinking hot or cold things since starting the process. I leave the desensitizing gel on while I hop in the shower and do my skin care routine, so about 15 minutes.. I love showering at night because it's so relaxing and one less thing I have to do in the morning. After my shower, I do my skin care routine and moisturize. After all that I take my desensitizing gel out and that's it! It is kind of a long process but at the same time it's barely noticeable how long it takes because I'm still able to go about my routine without it hindering it. I'm still using my kit now too after these two weeks but instead of every night, I do it every other night. I then get my PJs on and relax a little bit with Caleb before I have to pump again.
10:00 PM: Caleb and I will either snuggle up with some Netflix and ice cream or we'll just take some personal time and he'll do whatever while I work on my blog. Either way it's such a nice way to wind down for the night and get my mind at ease before going to bed.
Spectra Breast Pump: Amazon | Dr. Seuss Pillow: Porter Lane Home (old) | Duvet Cover: Pottery Barn (old, similar) | Ralph Lauren sheets: TJ Maxx (in store only) | Lamps: Target (old, similar) | Painted Letters: Anthropologie (old) | Sonic Electric Toothbrushes: Amazon | Toms toothpaste: Target | Canisters: Target (old, similar) | Hand Towel: World Market | Vitamin D3: Target | Evening Primrose Oil: Whole Foods | One a Day Prenatal vitamins: Amazon
11:00 PM: I do one final 15 minute pump session for stimulation and supply purposes and then I brush my teeth and take my vitamins. After that it's lights out by 11:30 so I can get plenty of sleep to take on the next day!
And now for the exciting part! I've partnered with Smile Brilliant to help you also #SmileFearlessly and have a discount code, tinydapperfox15, for 15% storewide for all of you to use to get your own whitening kit! We are also hosting a giveaway together for 1 free teeth whitening kit! All you have to do is fill out the giveaway form here, follow me (@dmcab) + Smile Brilliant (@smillebrilliant) on Instagram, and tag a friend in the comments on my night routine post. Giveaway will run until 10/5 and the winner will be contacted by Smile Brilliant! This giveaway is in no way affiliated with Instagram and is sponsored by Smile Brilliant. Giveaway is open to all US, UK, Australia, and Canadian residents.
Thank you to Smile Brilliant for partnering with me on this post. As always, I give my complete and honest opinion on all products and they are 100% my own. I truly appreciate the brands that help support Tiny Dapper Fox!
**For pregnant and nursing moms, please consult with your doctor, dentist, and pediatrician prior to using any teeth whitening products. My healthcare providers deemed them safe for me to use while nursing, but it is always best to check with them as every mom and baby are different. The active ingredient in Smile Brilliant's kit is 22% carbamide peroxide, which is usually deemed safe for both pregnant and nursing moms, but please only take medical advice from your healthcare providers.
I’m Diana; curator & author of Tiny Dapper Fox. Here you’ll find posts on motherhood, home life, travel, & fashion/beauty as well as City Guides for places all around the world. Make yourself cozy and let’s be friends!
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