I know I said yesterday how I don't make goals or resolutions at the start of a new year but I always have some goals that I am trying to focus on in my life! After having Kai, I really started focusing on health and wellness for myself. Our bodies do amazing things and in return they deserve to be treated for how amazing they are. I mentioned a little bit in my post about My Postpartum Fitness Journey how I have a list of wellness goals that I have been trying to master. I came up with these goals back in the fall and was doing so well with them, but then my dad took a turn for the worst and I really struggled to stay on track. I've tried my hardest to get back to where I was back in September but I just haven't gotten there yet. Well now that the holidays are over and we're off to a fresh start in 2019 it's time to focus on them whole heartedly again!
The way I believe it is best to master any kind of fitness or lifestyle goal is to take it slow. They say it takes 14 days to break a habit and 21 days to make a habit. So if we try to create 10 different habits all at once, we're going to fail. Plain and simple. Now I don't want to drag my goals out super long so I settled on 1 week at a time. I'll explain this part in more detail down below.
I have 10 goals on my list. These goals are things that I want to become natural habits within my life. There's no end to them and I allow myself grace when it comes to them because life does happen and it's not always perfect.
My thought process for making it through this list of healthy lifestyle goals is to take 1 goal and focus on that each week. So for instance, next week I am aiming to complete my 3 workouts per week goal. Remember when I said though that I'm giving myself grace when it comes to these goals? So this goal is a perfect example of how sometimes life doesn't go as planned and I'm not going to beat myself up if I miss a workout. If I'm really sick or if it's a holiday or if we're on vacation I'm not going to stress about working out. But I'm also not going to use those things as excuses for missing workouts when I really am able to get a workout in. Working out is something we really need to make time for in our lives because our mind, body, and souls deserve it.
Then the next week I will pick a new goal to focus on if I completed the previous week's goal. So if I do all my workouts next week then the week after I will focus on drinking all my water every day. If I don't meet that goal then I will just try again the following week. Get where I'm coming from? It's not about failing and giving up. It's simply just about being the best you can be. Some times I know I won't meet all these goals in a week and that's ok. Just because I missed a work out or went to sleep late one night doesn't mean I should just completely toss out the idea of getting 8 hours of sleep all the nights after. I know how hard it can be to set your mind on something and then when you mess up you just throw your hands up in the air and say forget it...you ruined it. The thing I love about this list that I've made for myself is it has no end, they are habits I plan to create and keep for myself forever. They are lifestyle changes and not something that I just check off of a to do list.
So here's to being healthier and happier in 2019. Let's give our bodies, minds, and souls what they deserve because we as human beings are remarkable. What is one of your health and wellness goals for this year?
Hellooooo 2019! I absolutely love the start of a new year. There's something so light and amazing about the week of New Years. I hope you all had a relaxing holiday yesterday and are ready to take on this year!
So for the last few years I've ditched the idea of resolutions and goals. I use to make a nice long list of things I wanted to do and accomplish each year but the problem I use to have with that is that life changes over 12 months. Sometimes a little or sometimes a lot. So when I would go back to reflect on the year I'd look at my resolutions or goals and think about how I didn't really accomplish them 100% because I either forgot about them or they just aren't relevant anymore. I settled on this idea of picking a word or phrase at the start of the year that I feel like my life needs more of and I concentrate on applying it to my life all year long. Last year the phrase was 'go with the flow.' I'm sure you recognize it because I mentioned it all the time. I still plan on continuing to incorporate that mentality in my life but with the start of a new year I'm adding a new word to my life and that word is 'REFRESH.'
I know you're probably thinking, "wow Diana, new year, yeah it's refreshing...how groundbreaking." But stay with me here. We accumulate a lot of clutter in our lives in all areas from things in our homes to emotions we feel about past events. I had a heavy year in 2018 and it's not that I want to just forget about all that happened last year but I do feel the need to purge and at the same time not let 2019 build up on me. I don't want to purge all that is weighing down on me from the past just to replace it with what might happen in the future.
This idea of 'refresh' for me is starting out by quite literally getting rid of what I don't need and use from things, people, emotions, thoughts, etc. I spent my whole winter break purging unneeded things from our house. I've started meditating again to get in touch with my emotions and thoughts. I want to concentrate on things that serve me and keep me motivated to be the best human I can be. I want to stay in touch with what is important to me and let the rest go. I plan to continually check in with myself on all aspects of life to 'refresh' all the time. Just the thought of this word makes me feel light and happy, which I've been needing for awhile now. I am so excited to be on this journey in 2019. I hope you feel just as hopeful for 2019 and can't wait to hear all your words, goals, and resolutions, too! Happy New Year, everyone!
Happy New Years Eve, everyone! I hope you all have the perfect plans for ringing in the new year! Whether it be at a big party or cozied up at home, do whatever your heart calls for. For us, we'll be cozied up at home, eating Chinese food, and having a game night. It's our favorite way to bring in a new year.
I've done a lot of "reflecting" on this past year this whole month of December. The best way to describe this year is that it was very complicated. It was the best year and the worst year. You might be asking, how is that even possible? Well I was blessed with the greatest gift of my life in 2018, the birth of Kai but was also stripped of one of the most important people in my life in 2018 by the death of my dad. If that doesn't make a year complicated, I don't know what does. The ultimate up and down. I've had many people say man you've had a rough year or this was the worst year ever, but I will never say that. Even though the passing of my dad was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through, Kai being born is still the biggest shining star of the year...my life really. So in a way, it's still the best year.
As much as I'm looking forward to 2019 beginning, I'm actually scared for it. New Years Day is probably my favorite day of the year. I love that feeling of new and fresh. You get to "start over," right? While I'm still so excited for that and all the new goals and accomplishments that will come in the new year, I'm also sad to leave 2018. I'm not ready to start a whole new chapter without my dad. When the clock strikes midnight tonight, we'll be in a new year where my dad will never be. But that's life. You have to roll with the punches and make the best of the situation you're handed. I'm trying to hang on to the thoughts that he's not going to be forgotten...ever. But it's still scary to think that a new year is starting tomorrow without him. It makes all this even more final. I'm so ready for the pain and hurt to go away from his passing, but I'm not ready to say goodbye. But life is forcing me to wave goodbye to 2018 and move on a little more.
The other thing that 2019 brings is Kai turning 1. Which is so exciting! But it's also another point of sadness for me. I plan to stop breastfeeding at the 12 month mark and for some reason this is so hard on my heart. It's such a special bond we have together. He's literally lived off of me for almost 2 years now and to think that he no longer will need that brings a lot of sadness to me. There is so much to look forward to with him turning 1, but on this last day of 2018, I am going to hold on to his babiness as much as I possibly can.
As for my 2018 mantra of going with the flow, I think I rocked this. I use to be such a stringent planner and I look back and laugh at myself. I started the year out real strong with going with the flow. I allowed myself to slow down, go in to labor naturally even though I wanted so bad to be in control and know when Kai would arrive. I went with the flow of that historic day in my life too of becoming a mother by trusting my body, my doctor, and the universe to safely bring Kai in to this world no matter what it took or how long it took. I allowed myself to enjoy his newborn stage so well and really bond with him with no expectations of being super mom or adventuring too much. I had a small hiccup mid-year with my bout of PPD, but I give myself grace when I think about this period because it's not my fault. My brain literally was not working the way it needed to in order to function properly and I needed help. Thankfully I got that help and was able to move past it fairly quickly. Most importantly though, I did my absolute best with my dad. I was there for him whenever he needed me, but I was able to keep rolling with life of being a mom, a wife, kicking ass at my job, and still took care of myself. I wouldn't have been able to handle all of it if I wasn't able to let go of things and go with the flow of each and every day. I didn't care if I didn't fold the laundry that exact day or if I didn't finish tidying up the house before bed. There is always tomorrow for those things and that mentality allowed me space for the things that really mattered. Kai, Caleb, and my dad.
I am very grateful for this year of growth and I am also thankful to all of you who are here. Whether you joined me on this journey in 2018 or if you've been here all along and stuck around through this complicated year. Thank you. I hope you all can look back on 2018 with a smile, too and I wish you all the best in the new year!
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Happy Friday, friends! I hope you've all had a lovely week. I'm really looking forward to this weekend because we don't have too much on our calendar for once. Tonight we're headed to a cookie party at a friend's house and then the rest of the weekend we'll just be relaxing and finishing up our Christmas shopping! I'm hoping to get all of it done (stocking stuffers included) all by tomorrow. Wish me luck, ha!
Today is a very special post because I am partnering with Formulate to show you how I've truly revitalized my hair during this postpartum phase of my life. About 3 months postpartum I started losing a lot of hair. Other mamas weren't kidding when they would say it comes out in clumps. I was one of those unfortunate mamas that this did happen to. I grew a lot of extra hair while I was pregnant and it was so thick and beautiful up until this point. Then I started losing all the extra hair and then some! There were times I wondered how I had any hair left? Once the hair loss finally stopped about 5 months postpartum, my hair just got really dry and brittle. The places where a lot of hair fell out started growing back and I had some awesome baby hairs growing in. I looked ridiculous. But then I found Formulate and my hair took a turn for the better.
Formulate is a hair movement company that creates shampoo and conditioner specifically for your hair. When you sign up, you receive a questionnaire via e-mail asking all kinds of questions about your hair and lifestyle. So, they will ask you where you live, if you have short or long hair, if you dye your hair, if you use hot tools, etc. Then they will formulate the perfect shampoo and condition for you based on your answers! All their products are sulfate and parabens free, so they are very safe to use during all walks of life (pregnancy and breastfeeding included). Sulfate free shampoo and conditioner is the absolute best route to go because it will not damage your hair yet it still cleans it well. I've noticed such a difference in my hair thanks to my personalized shampoo and conditioner and it's all because it's perfectly formulated for my hair! My hair is thick and healthy again and all my horrible frizzies have gone away. I have naturally curly hair, so this is something I've always struggled with. Formulate takes this in to consideration and added components to my formulate to help with frizziness.
On top of my Formulate shampoo and conditioner, I am still using some of my favorite Drybar products plus I discovered a new one, the Mudslide hair mask! Here is my little hair wash/care routine that I do every few days that truly helped bring my hair back to life postpartum.
Step 1: Shampoo
I wash my hair with shampoo and conditioner every 2 to 3 days. Usually I wash it on days that I work out, so Sunday morning, Monday night, and Thursday night. I take one pump of my Formulate shampoo and rub it into my scalp. It doesn't really foam because it's sulfate free, but it gets my hair and scalp nice and clean. After a good scrub in to my scalp, I wash it out.
Step 2: Hair Mask
Next, I ring out the excess water from my hair the best that I can, and I apply a generous amount of the Drybar Mudslide hair mask to my hair. I apply it all over, scalp and ends. I usually only do this on Sundays and Thursdays. I usually let it sit for about 5 to 10 minutes while I shave my legs. After that I wash it out, and my hair is already feeling so much smoother.
Step 3: Conditioner
So, I only condition my hair when I use shampoo, too. On days that I don't wash my hair, I usually just pin it up and keep it dry so that it doesn't get too dried out from washing it too much. I again ring out the extra water from my hair then use my conditioner. When applying my conditioner though, I take one pump of my Formulate condition and apply it just to the bottom half of my hair. Then I rub any excess on top by my roots. If I put too much up on my roots/scalp then I won't have any volume in my hair. I let this sit for about a minute.
Step 4: Detangler
After I get out of the shower, I use the Drybar Prep Rally detangler before I brush out my hair. I spray a healthy amount all over my hair and then brush it out with my Lemon Drop detangler brush. This detangler and brush really helps my ends not to break so much or yank out too much hair. After I brush out my hair, I throw it up in a towel.
Step 5: Hydration Cream
After I get in to my PJs, I let my hair out of the towel and brush it out one more time. Then I apply Drybar's Velvet Hammer hydration cream. I take a quarter size amount in the palm of my hand, rub my hands together and run it through the bottom half of my hair while it's wet. I don't put any on my roots because just like conditioner, it will weigh it down too much, and I won't have any volume in my hair when I go to style it the next day.
That's it! That's my whole hair care routine. I almost always just let my hair hair dry to keep it hydrated and healthy. The combination of all these products have really gotten my hair back to where I love it but the real stars of the show are definitely my Formulate shampoo and conditioner. Once I started using them my hair went from just okay to amazing! The best part about Formulate though is they will work with you endlessly to get your formula just right. If you aren't satisfied with your current formula, you can contact them and their head chemist will work with you to get your formula just right. Is that amazing customer service or what!?
And now the fun part! I have teamed up with Formulate to giveaway a set of personalized shampoo and conditioner to one lucky winner! All you have to do is enter the giveaway here!
Giveaway is open to US residents only. All giveaway entries will receive a $5 discount and free shipping code just for entering the giveaway! Give is open from today 12/14/18 until 12/30/18. Winner will be selected and contacted by Formulate.
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Our postpartum bodies are so different. It amazes me the differences I see and feel. At first, I didn't like it. I knew what I was getting in to but at the same time to see my body so different was hard. My belly was and is still so soft. I actually had slight diastasis recti after giving birth, too. I didn't even know where to start to getting back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I had gained about 30 lbs during my pregnancy but also was not happy where I was weight-wise before I got pregnant.
I was cleared to work out after my 6 week postpartum appointment but didn't even know where to start. I felt so loose, weak, and my tailbone was still pretty bruised. I also didn't want to make my diastasic recti worse. Plus, what mama has time to workout!? I was excited at the prospect of "getting my body back" but was also overwhelmed. I decided to make a small plan for myself though that started me out really slow and see how it went.
I slowly got back in to being physical and made it a point to make time for myself to workout. There was plenty of ups and downs at the beginning and I would go through periods where I wouldn't work out for weeks. But after my bout of PPD, I knew I needed to change something. I knew I needed to get healthy not just for Kai, but for myself. I lost a significant amount of weight when I was struggling with PPD and it was not healthy at all. After getting the help I needed, I tried to look at the silver lining of it all that I had lost a good amount of weight and the number was almost where I wanted it to be. I would never encourage anyone to lose weight by not eating and letting anxiety run their life though. It made EVERYTHING worse. So please mamas, if this is something you are struggling with please seek the help that you need. No shame. I'm here. Your doctor is here. Whoever, you need, please turn to them.
From there though I realized I needed to appreciate myself so much more. I stopped working out to lose weight and instead started working out because my beautiful body deserves to move and be loved. By changing this mind set and doing workouts that I truly enjoy, it changed everything. I love working out now. I'm disappointed when I miss a workout. I crave it now. I'm so proud of myself when I look in the mirror and see how far I've come. To me it's a moot point but I know numbers are easier to grasp for some so here it is...I've lost all 30 lbs of my baby weight plus another 10 lbs to get myself back to where I've been wanting to be for a long time. All my clothes fit again...even things that didn't fit prior to my pregnancy. But mostly, I feel good and to me that's what's most important about beginning my fitness journey.
So I wanted to share with you all how I got back in to a good fitness regimen after having Kai all the way through up to where I am at now.
*Week 1 meaning from the time I started working out again, not postpartum weeks. I wanted to state this in weeks of the journey, not postpartum because we are all ready to begin working out again at different times in our postpartum journey.
I go to yoga on Sundays and Thursdays and go running on Mondays. Monday and Thursdays are my work from home days, so going to workout is the perfect way for me to get out of the house for those days. I am currently still on the 1 mile run and 2 moderate level yoga classes phase of this journey. I was actually up to running 2 miles once a week, but after my dad passed away, I just wasn't getting my workouts in. As much as I want to believe I can run further than that, it's important that I don't rush that part of exercising. When you give birth, your pelvic floor becomes very very weak and your hips/back are very out of whack. If I miss too many runs, I back to track to 1 mile again. My philosophy is 3 weeks at a time. After 3 weeks of being consistent with a workout, I feel that I can bump it up to the next level. This has been a nice steady incline of workouts for myself to where I'm not overdoing it but at the same time not staying stagnant for too long. I was very active when I was younger and can tend to push myself too hard sometimes so it has been very hard not to do that now. It's so important though to give yourself grace and time to get back to where you want to be from a physical standpoint though...you did give birth to a human after all! Our bodies need a lot of time to heal. Exercising can actually help with this but overdoing it with exercise can make things much worse. It's about finding that balance and I believe the schedule up above was perfect for me in finding that balance. Like I've said, I feel better than ever these days! I feel good from the inside out and feel like I look it too whenever I look at myself in the mirror. So I encourage all of you to find that schedule that works for you, too. Know that it does take some sacrifice, but it's worth it. It makes me sad to give up my Sunday mornings snuggling Kai and reading to him before his morning nap to go to yoga, but at the same time I need that time for me. It makes me sad to not have dinner with Kai and Caleb after work on Thursday nights, especially because I have to go in to the office on Fridays, but I know I need that break to go to yoga for my own sanity. I do have mom guilt for even taking 3 hours a week for myself to do these workouts, but it's only 3 hours. Kai will be ok and I'm better for it. So mamas, pick out some time for yourself, do what you enjoy, and start slow! If you have any questions or need any advice or motivation I am always here for you!
The only thing I want you all to know and remember is, please do not workout prior to your doctor or midwife clearing you for it after giving birth. It is very important to rest those first 6 to 8 weeks or longer if recommended by your doctor or if you just simply need it yourself.
I’m Diana; curator & author of Tiny Dapper Fox. Here you’ll find posts on motherhood, home life, travel, & fashion/beauty as well as City Guides for places all around the world. Make yourself cozy and let’s be friends!
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