Happy Friday everyone! I have some exciting news...I'm officially full term! Hooray, I'm finally at 37 weeks! I can't express how wonderful it was to wake up Wednesday morning and be able to say that. I want to look back though on these last 8 months and truly appreciate how beautiful they've been, as well as share some stuff with you all from the early days. Obviously I hadn't started Tiny Dapper Fox yet, and we didn't announce that we were having a baby until August! So that is a good solid 2 1/2 month gap from when we found out to when we shouted from the rooftops about Nugget.
The day we found out I was pregnant was one of the best days of our entire life. It was May 24th, and I was 5 weeks pregnant. To rewind slightly, we'll go back to Mother's Day last year. My mother-in-law came to visit us and we spent a day in downtown Chicago showing her around. We were in a cool little shop with lots of cute home goods and one thing that was in there was a little girl's apron. I remember her saying, "hopefully one day I can buy that for you guys!" I kind of nervous laughed and we moved on. Little did she know or anyone for that matter, that we were "trying" to start having a baby. We also really don't like the word "trying," because honestly we just went about our daily lives but without that added protection of the pill. We did our best to be as healthy as possible for ourselves and not stress about it. Anyways, I'll never forget that moment in that store in the city though because I literally thought to myself, "what if I am pregnant!?" And little did I know...I actually was!
Fast forward a couple days, we were at the grocery store and we were walking down the baking aisle. I walked past the pudding section and all of a sudden wanted butterscotch pudding. Caleb looked at me with wide eyes like "umm what?" It's not that I don't like butterscotch pudding but it's something I hadn't had in years and all of a sudden wanting it so badly was a little strange to us. I was due to get my period that next week, and I was having all the symptoms of getting a period too like cramping and being tired. However, those are all symptoms of being pregnant in the early stages, too. We didn't know what to think and at the risk of having our hearts broken we just tried to remain neutral and go about our daily lives.
The day I usually get my period came and went...and then a couple more days went...all of a sudden it was the next week. Due to being a little suspicious, I skipped my Monday yoga class that week (I am a Corepower Yoga member and go to the C2 class, which is set at around 95-100 degrees F) because I know that being dehydrated like that can be harmful in pregnancy, especially the first trimester. A couple more days passed and I was a week late. That was the day I decided to go buy a pregnancy test just to see. I went to Walgreens during my lunch break and picked one out. I mentioned in my Cheers, 2017 post my silly story about how I decided to go with the analog version instead of the digital one because I was 50% convinced that I wasn't pregnant and didn't want to waste the extra $5 (yes...I don't know why $5 was so important to me in that moment?) on a digital test if I wasn't pregnant. I walked over to the checkout and was shaking when I handed the box over. I went home after work and did the thing and we waited. Like I said in that other post, what happened next was so funny. We couldn't read the stick at first. The horizontal line was kind of faint and the vertical line was there. But we were thinking, "do both lines have to be really strong to be positive?" After a few minutes it finally clicked that the vertical line does not show up at all if you're not pregnant. I just remember having tears in my eyes and feeling this incredible blissful feeling washing over me...we we're going to have a baby!
I didn't really know what to do next...I just sat on our bed and called my doctor to set up an appointment. I thought that was a good place to start. Caleb was too excited to remain any kind of calm and immediately called his dad to tell him the news. I was on hold with the doctor while he was telling him. It was so funny and ridiculous but at the same time it made my heart burst that he was so happy that he was going to be a father. We then called my parents and asked them to casually come over for dinner and told them over some steak and lobster rolls. I was so scared that for some reason it wasn't true though and I took another test the next day, but the stick looked exactly the same as the day before...I was officially pregnant!
My first trimester was kind of rough. It wasn't brutal, but it also wasn't a cake walk. Man growing an organ and a human is hard work! I thankfully never got sick, but I did have almost 24/7 nausea for 2 months straight. I honestly think though the only reason I never got sick was because of Caleb. Smells were a huge trigger for my nausea, and since Caleb is the cook in our house, I thankfully never had to really be in the kitchen in the midst of any strong food smells. He also picked up the slack big time with around the house chores. Going up and down flights of stairs always made me feel light headed and brought on more nausea, too, so he did most of the house cleaning and laundry for me. He basically did everything. He was himself and me for 2 months, and I can't begin to tell you how grateful I am for him. The thing that would instantly make me feel better too was Caleb just simply saying "thank you for doing this." I would be crying or curled up in a little fetal position and all it would take was hearing those words to make it all better.
So pretty much the whole story of my first trimester goes like this...I slept and watched all 10 seasons of Friends, twice. That's pretty much it. I'd go days without washing my hair because I couldn't stand standing up to shower for more than 2 minutes and the scent of my dry shampoo made me want to hurl. We'd go 3 weeks without having a load of laundry done before I'd be able to muster up any energy to get it done or Caleb would get around to it. Caleb would tidy up the house but it probably only got properly dusted and cleaned once a month instead of weekly. Poor Wrigley barely got walked and I didn't care if it was raining or sunny out because I spent all of 5 minutes outside this summer. We didn't grocery shop. Caleb would go to the store every day after work to grab whatever I could tolerate. Basically just bread, mac and cheese, watermelon, grapes, and lemonade. Life was a mess. But it was a beautiful mess. So if you're pregnant and in your first trimester right now and you're feeling like you can't do anything right now, that is okay. You're doing an amazing job regardless if you can workout every day or if you sleep 15 hours a day. I was definitely no wonder woman during my first trimester and props to the ladies that can be. If you can't though, don't fret...you're still doing just as good of a job as them! It may not seem like it right now...but I promise you it will get so much better.
The best parts of my first trimester though was the ultrasounds and telling our family and friends. When we got to see the little heartbeat going on the screen for the first time it was indescribable. And the joy and excitement we received from telling all of our family and close friends at get togethers and through FaceTime was just so wonderful. You all kept me going during those hard weeks and I can't thank you enough!
Our biggest family announcement was at our 4th of July BBQ that we hosted at our house for our family. We gathered everyone on our deck before we served lunch and just casually started out by thanking them all for coming over. I started to say how much it meant to me to have them all there because we have something really exciting to share with all of them and then I all of a sudden started crying and Caleb had to take over. Then everyone else was crying and rushing in on me and hugging me. I remember when all my aunts let go and my grandma was standing right in front of me crying with Caleb and I walked over to her to give her a hug. I'm her first grandchild and now I get to give her her first great-grandchild. It is one of the biggest honors of my life.
We also took our big PNW vacation during my first trimester. I don't know how, but I somehow made it through haha. We had to really take it slow but we still had so much fun. And I climbed a mountain, you guys! A MOUNTAIN! Granted it was a small one...but nonetheless I was still pretty proud of myself for doing any amount of physical activity during that time.
When we got back home from our PNW vacation, I was technically entering my 2nd trimester, but I still wasn't feeling stellar. My nausea was easing up a lot but I still had some really hard days. I would say it was completely gone by about week 18. The start of the 2nd trimester also comes with lots of test, too but with every test came good news that continued to make us more and more excited. We opted to do the screening tests for any chromosomal abnormalities for the baby, which came with an additional ultrasound. We received good news that everything looked great, but this is also when we found out that Nugget was appearing to be a boy. We kept the information to ourselves and continued to be completely gender neutral about him even to each other, but it got us pretty excited to potentially know the gender. That ultrasound was at week 13, so it was still VERY early to be able to tell, especially because different body parts can masquerade as reproductive parts at that stage, but to hear the words that it looked like a boy was amazing.
One of the biggest highlights of my 2nd trimester though came at week 17. I started noticing some fluttering in my belly that wouldn't go away when I drank water like it use to. I could feel Nugget moving! I had another appointment at week 18 and when the nurse first tried to check his heart rate with the fetal doppler monitor, he kicked her! It was pretty funny and made me laugh that I had a feisty little one inside me.
Our 20 week ultrasound is when we found out Nugget was a boy...hopefully for sure. I don't want to say 100% because obviously there is always some room for error but since this was the 2nd ultrasound that looked like that, I'm pretty confident we're having a son. We asked the tech this time to not say the gender out loud when she checked the anatomy and instead put what she thought it was in an envelope for us to open up later. We went home after the appointment and opened it up with Wrigley. We wanted it to just be the 3 of us during this incredibly special moment. We opened a cute little paper that said "It's a Boy!" on it and we're so thrilled and excited to know. I could officially start buying cute boy stuff!
The weekend after our ultrasound we hosted our gender reveal party at our house for all of our family and friends. I baked a cake and dyed the frosting blue and bought a cute little "It's a Boy" topper to stick in the cake. We didn't have a box big enough to cover the cake without smudging the frosting, so we ended up having to use this giant storage tub to cover it up haha! We had the cake centered on our dining room table all covered up when everyone arrived. We had pink and blue plates and played a fun little game where everyone had to take a plate for appetizers and the plate color was their guess for if they thought it was a boy or a girl. We revealed the cake right away because we didn't want to make everyone wait forever to get to dessert. A lot of people thought it was a boy, and they were right!
The other highlight of my 2nd trimester was obviously our babymoon in Orlando. We went to Disney World for 5 days and had the best time in the parks and relaxing at our resort. I also got a prenatal massage and we enjoyed afternoon high tea at the Grand Floridian. It is a trip that both Caleb and I will cherish forever. You can read more about our trip in my A Disney Babymoon post!
Overall, my 2nd trimester was the happiest time of my pregnancy. I started feeling like myself again by 18 weeks and barely had a baby bump, so I could still move around and do daily things that needed to get done. All my energy was back, which helped me get back on track and motivated to start prepping the house for Nugget. We started fixing up the nursery the week after we got back from Disney, so the first week of October. It is finally all finished, and I can't wait to share it with all of you!
My 3rd trimester has been pretty great, too. While I feel like a huge waddling penguin these days, I've loved being pregnant. I'm very much ready for the next part, but I am also going to really miss feeling Nugget moving around inside me. It still makes me smile so big. The best parts of this trimester so far have been my baby shower and the holidays.
My mom and aunt hosted my baby shower back in November, and it was such a wonderful day. I was 29 weeks pregnant at the time. It was honestly the perfect time to have it because I still had plenty of energy and wasn't uncomfortably big yet. I had a cute baby bump for all the pictures though! We also received so many wonderful gifts and it's been nice to have everything we need for the baby in case he decides to come early. We have everything organized and washed, all ready for him when he does come. You can read more about my shower in My Baby Shower post.
The holidays have been extra special this year with focusing on Nugget's arrival. It was our last Christmas season just me, Caleb, and Wrigley and we definitely enjoyed doing our traditions we've started over the last few years. We're so excited to include Nugget in them this year and and start new ones with him, too!
As I look back on these last 8 1/2 months it has been the best experience of my life. All the great times far outweigh the difficult ones. What is coming makes every single thing worth it. I always start saying, "I can't wait to meet our baby," but I stop in the middle of saying that phrase because in a way I feel silly saying that. I already know him. We've been together through all of this, so I feel like it's more appropriate to say "I can't wait to see our baby!" That day is quickly approaching and while it is going to be long, hard, and tiring, I know it is going to be one of the most incredible days the Cabrera Crew has ever had.
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